I loved this song when I was a teenager.  It’s very 1980’s.  I’ve been hearing it a lot lately too, in stores and supermarkets.  And the song gives me a chance to discuss another word in Mental Health: gaslighting.  Gaslighting is when an abuser tells you that YOU are not remembering things the way they happened.  But you know that you do remember things correctly.  The abuser is trying to change what happened.  Sometimes, they do this in public, to further humiliate you.  They’ll say things like:

Hold your ground – even if you cannot defend yourself verbally.  You are NOT crazy! You are not confused.  They are trying to confuse you – on purpose.

You are going to need to build a “city” or a wall around yourself.  You do know the truth.  You’ll have to do this eventually anyway.  You don’t always need to build a wall of protection from people who are your family – but by no means are you alone in this. One of my collegues is going through a life threatening surgery and her family couldn’t care less.  Very sad.

Yes, “build a city” of self protection.  Only open the gates for people who prove to you – through time and effort – that they truly value you. Make sure your city has the right kind of lighting – No gas lighting… 🙂

Thank you, Starship!  I still love your song!

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