Dearest Purity and Bea,

I’m sorry I could not do this sooner.  And perhaps, as time moves forward and you learn more of what has happened with us the last few years, you’ll understand better why this was so difficult to do.

I appreciated hearing your thoughts the other night, Purity.  It was hard to hear that you feel that I need to apologize too.  But I get it.  The parents won’t be appeased without hearing the words, “I’m sorry.” And I also heard that they won’t do it first.  I MUST be the “bigger person” and start this process.  You may remember that I tried to talk to them before.

I also heard that you feel mom should apologize.  I agree,  but I’m not holding my breath that this will happen.  Maybe she will surprise us.

Just know that I am working on this.  I am sorry though if you feel I’ve forced you to sneak around.  You are eighteen and you should be able to do what you want/need without someone getting upset about it.

I have a student in class like this.  He gets upset when the other kids tell him “no” about something (like when he tries to borrow a pencil).  Then, he throws a fit.  The other kids are so frustrated with him. Some kids “walk on eggshells around him” trying not to upset him.  But this boy is very sensitive.  It’s only a matter of time before he’s going to have an issue with someone.  Other kids refuse to be involved with him because they just don’t want to deal with the drama.

I guess what I’m saying is, try not to get into the habit of walking on eggshells. It ruins your pedicure!  🙂